See… well, the details are kinda long, so bear with me.
So there’s this girl who’s in one of my classes. I barely know her, but I already have a very good impression. From what I’ve seen, she is very smart, sweet, and cute. I especially like her blue eyes.
What is the problem? Well, it happens with every girl I’m interested in. When I like somebody, instead of talking to them and seeing if they’re interested, I just glance in their direction a lot, wondering if I’d even have a chance. I’m scared of talking to them, because I’m afraid of coming across as awkward, annoying, or insistent – to put it very mildly, I don’t have a lot of confidence in my "people skills" (though I’m seldom ever rejected when I try to talk to anybody). I actually apologize compulsively every time I feel awkward, and my lack of self-confidence tends. Eventually they notice, and they can obviously tell I like them – I don’t want to make it too obvious.
This girl is starting to notice that I have feelings for her. She glanced directly in my direction one time, which indicated that she is looking to see if I’m looking at her because she suspects I like her. I have only spoken to her once or twice (very briefly), and while she appeared to have a positive impression of me, I think I came off as overly polite and kind.
As to whether or not she is interested in me as well, I am not entirely sure, but given that we hardly know each other, I doubt it. She isn’t constanty glancing at me the way I do to her, and she doesn’t go out of her way to gain my attention. I’m guessing she does know my name, though.
I would seriously like to get to know her better, she has me very interested – if only just as a friend. I’m not 100% sure if I’m ready to go out with somebody or not – it sounds like going on a date is a significant emotional commitment, and I know that I’ve had interest in more than one girl at a time in the past. A break-up would hurt even more than it seems, depending on the relationship. And I know that I’d have to be especially good at reading body language and saying the right things in response to their feelings, and while I doubt I am particularly bad at reading other people’s body language/feelings, nor do I feel thoroughly confident in my abilities either (as I said above). I’ve only asked a small handful of girls out before, and all of them said that they preferred me as a friend. I doubt I’m anything that very many girls would like.
On that subject, I don’t really think I have very much going for me, on outward appearance. I’m not a mean person by any means, I get along just fine with others, but I don’t consider myself a saint either. I am not stupid, and I am reasonably good at figuring things out – but I don’t consider myself the next Albert Einstein either (though one of my teachers did call me brilliant, but I doubt any others feel the same way). My sense of humour is not remarkable; On occasion I can make a somewhat humorous remark/action, but otherwise my sense of humour is rather bland and the only way I can really make people laugh is by making a complete fool of myself (which I don’t want to do). I am not absolutely horrible at sports, but I’m not very athletic either, and I can’t run very fast. I am terribly lazy and indolent when it comes to just about anything you can think of. I don’t really have a lot of talents that I’ve yet discovered. Appearance-wise… well, I’m sure not David Beckham or Zac Effron – I’m not morbidly obese but I’m definitely not skinny, and I’m not very muscular (plus, I have long sideburns which I plan to shave, and I’m growing a unibrow which I also plan to… well, pluck.). As far as my interests go, I read about things nobody else cares about (websites, countries, et cetera), so other than video games and a few websites, I don’t have too much to relate to others with. My taste in music varies, I can like anything so long as it has a good rhythm and lyrics). And all-in-all, I simply don’t think very many people take me seriously as a person; perhaps it’s just me and my cynicism, perhaps I am a better non-verbal communicator than I think I am.
Anyways, time for the million-dollar question!
Does anybody know any techniques to gain more confidence in myself when talking to other people so I don’t have to simply stare in their direction wondering if they might want to get to know me better? Whenever I start a conversation with somebody it usually just starts with "what’s up" because I assume they aren’t interested in what’s up with me because they didn’t solicit my opinion.
SUMMARY: To all who read through that cure for insomnia, good job. To those who didn’t, just read the paragraph right above this one. 
You sound absolutely awesome! I read about countries and stuff also, like I mean acutally take notes on Japan. I’m not really smart, though I’m working on my writing skills… You have and excellent vocabulary and Zac Effron is tard, you dont want to look like him 
you should lift a bit and maybe start thinking about the brows…lol dont worry about it! the person that loves you will love you for who you are! Just start telling her random things an stuff, I mean ask her about HER music tastes and what movies she likes…according…like "Have you seen —-?" Then you can start talking about it. Btw, as far as I can tell, you have a very good taste in music! Don’t do so much glancing, I would say, though i’ve never actually had a boy glancing at me all the time, or at least i haven’t noticed. I mean who knows, maybe you’ll find you have nothing in common at all. Good luck!
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