I’m 21 and I’ve never been in love. I thought I was, more than once, but people who are obviously in love told me that…"you just know."
I’m a hopeless romantic, but at the same time extremely picky.
I’m also very hard on myself, because of my background I never feel like I deserve what I want. Am I doomed to be alone?
Now…
There’s this man. He matches everything on my list. I’m best friends with his sister (yikes), and we spend a lot of time together. I’m really into him and sometimes feel that he is into me, but my doubt gets the best of me.
I try to show no signs of interest for proprieties sake. I’m very traditional and will do nothing until it is certain that he likes me, and even then I believe that it is up to him to make the first move.
His sister knows about my "crush" and says that I’m obvious but that there is no way he knows or suspects anything. She also says that she thinks he is indifferent, but could be wrong.
We have mutual friends and one day last week I was with one of them and ran into the man in question. After our encounter she asked if there was anything romantic going on, and if not there should be because he was into me.
I asked why she would say that and she said…."I read his body language."
He never touched you, besides a poke or two. (signifying that he wants contact with you, but is afraid too much would be either inappropriate or would ignite too much emotion.)
Everytime you tried to end the conversation and leave, he would bring up something mundane to talk about even though on more than one ocassion he said that he had somewhere to be.
Even though our other friend was there his attention was on me…
He smiled a lot, and even blushed.
She said, "At the least there is definite attraction."
Sometimes he IMs me online, but I always make the conversations quick. I rarely IM him first because I don’t want appear to be interested. Once he sent me a video clip of Casablanca, and often he comments on mundane thngs like my picture or status.
Still i’m not convinced. I think he’s just nice, polite, and socially outgoing. I don’t understand the male brain, or the females. How can I act to encourage him (if he is into me at all) without being inappropriate. I try to compliment him on ocassion, NEVER touch him. Try not to pay too close attention to him. Rarely talk about him. I do giggle too much around him (much to my embarrassment) and smile a lot.
Anyways, that’s the ramblings of my giggling female brain. Your input and advice is both reespected and expected! Thank you!
Firstly, I think your slightly old fashioned ways are cute. Although I think it might be a bit hard for him to read the signs.
You obviously like him a lot, but you also don’t want to make it obvious you like him. Is this because you are scared he will find out you like him when he is not into you? It’s your decision, but its possible to make it a little bit more obvious you like him without making it completely obvious. Even if its just starting the conversation on IM or talking for a bit longer, if you don’t want to get too flirty.
Even if he does find out you like him from your hints, it is likely he likes you back and will make the first move sooner, as you obviously don’t want to make it. And the worst thing that can happen is he finds out you like him but he doesn’t return the affection, in which case I believe he would just outline his feelings and let you know he wants to be just friends. Which is not much worse off than you are now. So don’t be too afraid to let him know what you feel, but at the same time, don’t make it too obvious.
You’ll be fine, trust me, and he’ll make the first move someday, if you make your signs obvious enough, well thats what I think, from what I know, anyhow. For the moment, just be a good friend, with a few extra compliments, and he’ll make the move. Good luck. 
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