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How does one go about finding out what makes them seem creepy?

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Ok, I have been in two great relationships in my life and still talk to them as we have grown to be great friends. Both relationships were initiated by them. In fact I was so shy that they became rather aggressive at pulling me out of my shell, I thank them for that.

Now I have been single for about 5 years. Anytime I make any attempt to connect in any way with a girl, their reaction would indicate they are creeped out by me in some way. This was always the case before and after my 2 relationships.

I asked my ex’s if I am creepy in any way. I trust their opinions. They tell me not at all, but my observations are telling me otherwise.

The problem with trying to get a handle on the issue is that if someone is weirded out by me, I don’t think I can just ask them to offer their reasons because by that time they just want to set their attention elsewhere. Not that one single person’s reasoning will affect my methods for self improvement but rather hearing a collection of reasons might give me some sort of starting point to work with.

There are times where I won’t even make it to "hello". Sometimes I will actually get a smile or what my friends will cue me is a sure sign of interest, but when I attempt a conversation, the person appears to regret smiling at me as their body language would suggest with a heavy sigh or eye rolling.

I know there are a lot of creeps out there, but how do those of us who are not creeps get that across?

I know this is not set up as a back & forth chat, so I am just wondering how one would go about learning what to work on with zero input?

I am aware that confidence is key, but the line between confidence and arrogance seems to be razor sharp making this not unlike the lottery.

I am at the point where I don’t try anymore.

BTW, I am not Mr. Inflated ego (lol maybe that’s my problem) but I have had youtube videos and other places where I am viewed online and any comments I get with regard to looks are very flattering. I believe my issue lies within my aura or vibration or something.

Just looking for some feedback on the subject.
Responses from female points of view would be most helpful to me,

thanks.
Thank you so much for your answer (first one), it has made me aware of the fact that the extensive detail was mainly concentrated here in this question for purposes of conveying what I have experienced over time. When I am trying to connect with someone, I am only thinking about the moment and reacting accordingly. If I see she is not comfortable with my approach, I quickly withdraw. I have no interest in making people uncomfortable and will automatically adjust myself as necessary. I definately over-analyze after the fact. It’s the only way I know to try to understand what went wrong. I do also consider the possibility for some cases that the other person may have just had a bad day or I am the 10th person within the hour who has attempted to communicate with them, but I can’t just deny the possibility that I am doing something wrong as well.

ok..so i did have the patience to read what you wrote
you know wats ur problem..u are overanalysing everytg…yes and guys like these do creep me out
you are just too verbose
and since ur ex’s havnt told u wats ur real problem..the fact is you are far too sensitive to listen to it as well..and maybe react in nt so pleasant manner wen told abt some error in ur personality
aura and vibration are all effected by what you are as a pesron and you can change that
the best advise to you is just ease out a little

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